Transforming the Will — Choice and Character

Key Texts: Romans 7:15-25; Psalm 40:8; Matthew 26:39; James 4:7


ENVISION (5 minutes)

Goal: Help participants recognize the divided will as a universal human experience—and glimpse what a unified will could look like.

Open with the experience everyone knows:

"There's a war inside you.

You've felt it. You decide to eat healthier, and by noon you're reaching for the donut. You commit to patience with your kids, and by dinnertime you've snapped again. You resolve to pray more consistently, and within a week the resolution has evaporated. You know what you should do. You even want to do it—at least part of you does. But another part pulls in the opposite direction.

This isn't just weakness. It's division. The will itself is fractured—wanting two things at once, unable to move decisively in one direction.

And it's exhausting. The constant internal negotiation. The guilt after failing again. The growing suspicion that maybe you just don't have what it takes to change."

Then read the anchor text:

"For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing." (Romans 7:15-19)

"This is Paul—the apostle Paul—describing the divided will. If Paul experienced this, we shouldn't be surprised when we do.

But this isn't where the story ends. There's another possibility—a will so unified, so aligned with God, that obedience becomes desire. That's where we're headed today."


EXPLORE & ENGAGE (35-45 minutes)

Goal: Understand the will as the executive center, diagnose its division, and trace the path toward integration. Help participants recognize their own divided will and begin identifying concrete steps toward unification.

Part 1: The Will as Executive Center (6-7 minutes)

"Of all the dimensions we've explored, the will is the most central. Willard calls it 'the executive center of the self.' It's the part of you that decides, initiates, commits. It's where the buck stops.

Your thoughts can present options. Your feelings can push and pull. Your body can have its impulses. But ultimately, the will is what says yes or no. The will is what chooses."antml:parameter> "antml:parameter>

This is both our dignity and our danger. The capacity for choice is what makes us persons rather than puppets. We're not merely programmed—we have genuine agency. We can originate action. We can go against instinct, against pressure, against the grain.

But this same capacity is where things went wrong in the beginning. Remember the root of ruin from Lesson 4? It was a choice—the will deciding to be its own god, to step into the center of the universe. The will is powerful enough to choose against God. And it did.

So the will must be transformed. Not destroyed—a will-less person isn't holy, just hollow. But the will must be reoriented, reunified, brought into alignment with God's will. The scattered, divided, self-enthroned will must become a single-minded, surrendered, God-centered will.

The Psalmist describes the destination:

'I delight to do your will, O my God; your law is within my heart.' (Psalm 40:8)

'I delight to do your will.' Not 'I force myself.' Not 'I reluctantly comply.' When the will is transformed, obedience becomes joy. God's law isn't an external constraint but an internal desire—'within my heart.' This is what we're after."

Discussion (5 minutes)

  1. On Romans 7 resonance: Does Paul's description—'I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate'—resonate with your experience? Where do you feel this most acutely? Is it comforting or discouraging that Paul experienced this?
  2. On Gethsemane prayer: Jesus prayed 'not as I will, but as you will.' What would it look like to pray that prayer—and mean it—about a specific area of your life? What makes that prayer difficult for you?

Facilitator Notes

  • Question 1 can open up honesty about ongoing struggle. Affirm that this is universal—even apostles experienced it—while maintaining hope that transformation is possible. You may also want to share this note on Romans 7:

A note on Romans 7: Scholars have long debated whether Paul here describes his pre-conversion experience, his ongoing Christian struggle, or a rhetorical exploration of the law's inadequacy. Faithful interpreters hold each of these positions. What's clear regardless of where you land: the experience of a divided will — wanting to do good but finding resistance within — is real and recognizable to nearly every believer. The Spirit offers genuine unification and freedom. And experiencing this struggle doesn't negate God's grace or your standing in Christ. The invitation is the same: cooperate with the Spirit as He works to align your will with His.

  • Question 2 is the heart of this section. Don't let it stay abstract. Press for specifics: What cup would you ask to pass? What area do you most resist surrendering?

Part 2: The Problem — The Divided Will (8-10 minutes)

"So what's wrong with our wills? Paul already named it: division. The will is fractured, pulled in multiple directions at once.

James uses a striking word for this condition:

'Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.' (James 4:8)

Double-minded. The Greek is dipsychos—literally 'two-souled.' It describes a person whose will is split, who wants two incompatible things, who can't commit fully in one direction because part of them is always pulling the other way.

This is our condition. We want God, but we also want control. We want holiness, but we also want comfort. We want to serve others, but we also want to be served. We want peace, but we keep choosing anxiety-producing patterns. The will hasn't been unified; it's been splintered."antml:parameter>

And the result is paralysis or oscillation. Either we can't act decisively at all—endlessly weighing options, never committing—or we swing back and forth, one day committed, the next day retreating.

Willard identifies several symptoms of the divided will:

  • Procrastination. We know what we should do, but we keep putting it off. The will can't muster the force to initiate action.
  • Inconsistency. We start strong but can't sustain. The initial burst of intention fades because it was never deep enough.
  • Duplicity. We present one face publicly and live another privately. The will is too divided to integrate inner and outer life.
  • Rationalization. We explain away our failures, construct elaborate justifications, because the will is too weak to simply change.
  • Blame-shifting. We locate the problem outside ourselves—circumstances, other people, our upbringing—because the will won't take responsibility.

These are all signs of a will that hasn't been unified and surrendered. The executive center is compromised, so the whole self malfunctions.

And here's the painful truth: you cannot unify your will by willpower. The very faculty that needs to be transformed is the faculty you'd use to transform it. This is why self-help fails. The will that would pull itself together is the same will that's already divided. You can't lift yourself by your own bootstraps."

Discussion (5 minutes)

  1. On double-mindedness: James calls us 'double-minded'—wanting two incompatible things. Where are you most double-minded? What are the two things your will is trying to hold onto simultaneously?
  2. On symptoms: We named several symptoms of a divided will: procrastination, inconsistency, duplicity, rationalization, blame-shifting. Which do you recognize in yourself? Which is most persistent?

Facilitator Notes

  • Question 1 may surface real tension: wanting God and wanting control; wanting intimacy and wanting self-protection; wanting righteousness and wanting comfort. Name these tensions without judgment.
  • Question 2 is practical and invites self-awareness about habitual patterns of the divided will.

Part 3: The Path — Transforming the Will (10-12 minutes)

"So how does the will get transformed? If we can't do it ourselves, what can we do?

Jesus shows us the way in Gethsemane:

'And going a little farther he fell on his face and prayed, saying, "My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will."' (Matthew 26:39)

This is the pivotal act: 'Not as I will, but as you will.' Jesus isn't pretending He doesn't have a human will with its own desires—He asks for the cup to pass. But He subordinates that will to the Father's will. He surrenders the executive center.

This is what transforms the will: progressive surrender. Not a single dramatic moment only, but a pattern of yielding that, practiced over time, reunifies the scattered will around God's purposes.

Here's the VIM pattern applied to the will:

Vision: What does a transformed will look like?

It looks like Jesus in Gethsemane—a will that has desires and preferences but is ultimately surrendered. It looks like Psalm 40—delighting to do God's will because His law is within the heart. It looks like Paul's later testimony: 'I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me' (Galatians 2:20). The old divided self has died; a new unified self has emerged.

The transformed will is not weak but strong—strong enough to resist temptation, to persevere through difficulty, to choose the hard right over the easy wrong. But its strength comes from alignment with God, not from autonomous self-assertion."antml:parameter>

Intention: We must decide—with whatever divided will we have—to pursue unification. This is where we start, even knowing we can't finish it ourselves.

The intention sounds like this: I will stop trying to serve two masters. I will stop hedging my bets with God. I will bring my divided will into the light and ask the Spirit to unify it. I will practice surrender until surrender becomes natural.

James gives us the basic move:

'Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you.' (James 4:7-8)

Submit. Resist. Draw near. These are acts of the will—small ones, repeated, that gradually reorder the whole."antml:parameter>

Means: What practices transform the will?

Decisions in advance. The divided will is weakest in the moment of temptation or pressure. It's stronger when decisions are made beforehand, in clarity and calm. Decide now what you'll do when the temptation comes. Decide now how you'll respond to that person who irritates you. Pre-decisions reduce the power of the divided will in the moment.

Small acts of obedience. Don't start with the hardest surrender. Start with small ones. Every act of obedience—especially when you don't feel like it—strengthens the will's capacity to choose God. The will is like a muscle; it grows stronger through use.

Fasting and abstinence. These are classic will-training practices. When you choose to abstain from something good (food, comfort, entertainment) for a spiritual purpose, you're teaching your will that it doesn't have to be ruled by desire. You're practicing 'not as I will.'

Confession and accountability. The divided will thrives in secrecy. When we bring our failures into the light—confessing to God and to trusted others——we break the power of duplicity. Accountability relationships provide external support for what our internal will can't yet sustain alone.

Liturgy and routine. When we commit to regular practices regardless of how we feel—daily prayer, weekly worship, consistent service—we're training the will to act independently of mood. The routine carries us when the will is weak.

Delayed gratification. Practice waiting. Practice choosing the long-term good over the immediate pleasure. Every time you delay gratification, you're strengthening the will's capacity to resist the pull of the moment."

Discussion (5 minutes)

  1. On small obediences: We said the will is strengthened through small acts of obedience, especially when we don't feel like it. What small obedience is God inviting you to that you've been resisting? What would it cost to say yes?
  2. On will-training practices: Of the practices mentioned (decisions in advance, small obediences, fasting, confession, routine, delayed gratification), which have you tried? Which have been most effective? Which have you avoided, and why?

Facilitator Notes

  • Question 1 is action-oriented. Try to move toward concrete identification of one step participants might take this week.
  • These practices aren't punitive but formative—they're training the executive center of the self toward alignment with God.

Close the Explore & Engage section by connecting will to character:

"One more crucial point: character is simply the will made habitual.

When we talk about someone's character, we're talking about their default responses—how they act when they're not thinking about how to act. A person of good character does the right thing naturally, without agonizing deliberation, because their will has been trained in that direction.

This is the goal: a will so transformed that righteousness becomes reflexive. Not 'I decided to be patient today' but 'patience has become who I am.' Not 'I'm trying to be generous' but 'generosity flows from me without calculation.'

This kind of character doesn't develop overnight. It develops through thousands of small choices, each one grooving the will a little deeper toward God. There's no shortcut. But there's also no ceiling. The will can continue to be transformed, unified, and strengthened throughout a lifetime."

Discussion (5 minutes)

  1. On character: Character is the will made habitual. When you think about your default responses—how you act when you're not consciously choosing—what does that reveal about the current state of your will? What default would you most want to change?

Facilitator Notes

  • This question invites reflection on the deeper patterns that characterize us—the reflexive responses that show what the will has been trained to do.

SYNTHESIS (2-3 minutes)

  • Character is the will made habitual.
  • This week, we're going to practice one small surrender — training your will toward alignment with God.
  • Every act of obedience, every time you say "not as I will, but as You will," is grooving the will a little deeper toward becoming who God is calling you to be.
  • Transformation isn't instantaneous, but it is real—and it's available to you, right now, in the next choice you make.

EXPERIMENT (Two Options)

Option 1: The Daily Surrender Practice

"This week, we're going to practice the Gethsemane prayer—training the will in surrender through repetition.

Each morning, before you begin your day, kneel if you're able (the body can lead the will). Pray through these steps:

  1. Name your will. What do you want today? What outcomes are you hoping for, attached to, anxious about? Be honest—don't spiritualize. 'I want this meeting to go well. I want this person to appreciate me. I want to avoid that difficult conversation.'
  2. Offer surrender. For each thing you named, pray: 'Father, not as I will, but as You will.' Release the outcome. Open your hands. You're not saying these things don't matter—you're saying God's will matters more.
  3. Ask for alignment. Pray: 'Unify my divided heart. Let my will be so joined to Yours that obedience becomes delight.'

Each evening, review the day:

  • Where did I live surrendered? Where did I hold on too tightly?
  • Where did my will align with God's? Where did I resist?
  • What do I need to release before sleep?

This practice isn't about perfection. It's about repetition—grooving the pattern of surrender until it becomes more natural.

Bring your experience next week as we explore the transformation of the body."


Option 2: The Small Obedience Challenge

"This week, we're going to strengthen the will through small acts of obedience—especially in areas where we typically give in.

Step 1: Identify three areas where your will is weak. These should be small, daily matters—not your biggest struggle, but places where you routinely give in to preference over principle. Examples:

  • Hitting snooze instead of getting up when you planned
  • Checking your phone first thing instead of praying
  • Eating something you'd decided not to eat
  • Snapping at a family member instead of responding gently
  • Putting off a task you know you should do
  • Scrolling social media when you'd intended to do something else

Step 2: Make a pre-decision about each one. Decide now—before the moment comes—what you will do. Write it down: 'When I'm tempted to ___, I will instead ___.'

Step 3: Each time the moment comes, exercise the will. Choose the pre-decided action even if you don't feel like it. Expect resistance. Do it anyway.

Step 4: Track your progress. At the end of each day, note how many times you succeeded and how many times you gave in. Don't aim for perfection—aim for progress.

At the end of the week, reflect: What did you learn about your will? Where was it stronger than you expected? Where was it weaker? How did exercising small obediences affect your sense of agency and alignment with God?

Bring your observations next week."


Materials Needed

  • Printed texts (Romans 7:15-19; Psalm 40:8; Matthew 26:39; James 4:7-8)
  • Optional: Galatians 2:20 printed as well
  • Optional: whiteboard or display for symptoms of the divided will
  • Optional: index cards for participants to write their pre-decisions